Hello everyone, this is Joe Mallory’s hubby. I am writing on Mallory’s blog for the first time and for a good reason. To give you a little background on myself. I was raised in a house of 4 boys, consisting of 2 older brothers and a twin brother. It was a very crazy, testosterone fueled mess to say to least. My father worked in New York City and like Mallory I grew up in the Poconos. So most of the time my poor step mom was stuck with all 4 of us by herself. The worst part is she didn't know how to drive. Without knowing how to drive my brothers and myself had to be more creative on what to do. I can’t tell you how many times we said “I am so bored today”, we'd get the same answer back from our parents every time “go read a book or play outside”. Which do you think 4 boys would take? It’s pretty simple. Being outside all the time had us playing football, basketball,baseball, going swimming, running through the woods like we were Jean-Claude Van Damme. We were also very involved in Karate as kids, my 2 older brothers being black belts and my twin and I were almost black belts. You may be asking yourself were I am going with this. Well here we go.
When Mallory and I planned on having our first child we were both very opened minded. We were both asked 1000 times, "You guys want to have a boy right???" My older brother has 2 boys and it just seemed like all of us were headed in that direction. Well we were wrong. When we went for our ultrasound to discover what the sex of our child was going to be I couldn't stop laughing when the tech kept saying let’s see if you are having a “hot dog or a hamburger”. When the doctor revealed that we were having a “hamburger” I felt the tears coming. But since I am man’s man I had to hold them back. Even though I am probably the most emotional man’s man you will ever met I really didn't think twice, I was so excited for Mallory and myself I really don’t think “what if”.
We are so lucky to have Aubrey or as most of you know you as doodle. I know it’s a funny nickname but it fits. Aubrey was truly the best thing that ever happened to Mallory and I, two kids from a small town, living in Florida, growing up together. I know some people get driven apart by kids because they are so stressful but not us. Aubrey definitely made us have more purpose. As you all know she is a crazy, funny, emotional and loving little kid. Now she is more than that. She is a big sister which brings me to our new addition, Finley Kate.
When we discovered Mallory was prego again I think that this time we were a little more nervous, just because we were getting kind of used to having just Aubs. This time around again everyone was saying “You want a boy this time right,” and my answer stayed the same, I just want a healthy baby. I think that Mal on the other hand wanted another girl because she has told me before she always wanted a sister. Nothing against her brother, I am just sure she wanted someone to share the same interest with.
So now after having 2 girls, a wife and even a dog that's a girl, I am totally out numbered. One thing I think is very important in a family regardless if all are boys or all girls are sports. The main reason I think sports are so important to kids is because it is one of those things the harder you try to better you will become. I took this to the bank as a kid. I was a swimmer growing up most of my life. If you watch the Olympics you probably noticed those swimmers are monsters, standing 6’5 feel tall and are strong as a brick house. Me on the other hand, I stand maybe 5 foot 8 inches tall and have always been on the “big boned” side. I never let this get to me while competing in swimming. I would work my ass off and when the swim meets came around I always looked on the other blocks to see Andre the giant swimming next to me and I know going through his head was “I am going to kill this little chubby Italian kid”. That usually didn't happen, I would swim my heart out and with the support of my brother and teammates I hardly ever lost. I knew if I tried harder than the giant I always stood a chance.
I really believe it doesn't matter whether you have a boy or girl when it comes to sports. Something I think that is very important to learn discipline and good work ethic and participating in sports definitely re-enforces that. It can help you accomplish a lot, usually more then what you even thought you could. With my beautiful daughters I am not going to treat them different in that aspect.
Every Sunday when I wear my Eagles hat to watch football Aubrey comes up to me and says “Go Eagles”, in that cute 2.5 year old voice. I want my children to know it doesn't matter if you have a "hamburger" or a "hot dog", being active is for everyone.
So in the end I am a very lucky man, I have 4 beautiful girls in my house (including ruby our dog our 3rd child) that I know I am going to have fun playing sports with them and also dressing up like a princess while they plaster make-up all over my face. Trust me I will let them have FUN because in the end that is how I view sports and being active. Its fun for everyone, you get great exercise and above all iy brings the whole family closer, like it did in my house.
And to my crazy, non-stop photo taking, blogging, hormonal, breast feeding, sleep deprived beautiful wife you are the best wife, best friend I could ever ask for and I wouldn't change one thing about our family if I could change anything. What I have is what I would think most people hope for.